Sometimes caregivers are so concerned about the well being of the person for whom they are caring that they forget their own needs. They burn the candle at both ends and become exhausted, emotionally stressed or ill, compromising their quality of life and ability to care for their family member.

Some Caregiver Do's and Don'ts

Caregivers need to maintain their physical and emotional health by:

• getting sufficient sleep
• eating a healthy diet
• exercising and staying physically fit
• choosing appropriate health-care professionals and having periodic health checkups
• not abusing alcohol and drugs
• spending social time with family and friends
• pursuing their own interests
• seeking support from family, friends, professionals or religious advisor or joining peer support groups
• using appropriate in-home and community-based services

Keep in mind that it is normal to feel angry, frustrated, or depressed from time to time. Caregiving can be a difficult as well as a rewarding undertaking. If you are feeling stressed, angry, or depressed:

• remove yourself from the situation by walking away, even if it's just around the house
• talk to someone with whom you feel close
• call a hot line
• talk with your doctor or other health professional and/or
• write down your feelings in a journal.

If you find that you frequently are angry or depressed or that your emotions are getting out of control, you may benefit from counseling, and/or get relief in the form of respite, caregiver support groups, and supportive in-home services.